tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post231214285454538552..comments2023-12-25T11:13:04.495+00:00Comments on Seraphic Singles: Auntie Seraphic & Crushed Catholic Girl in NYCSeraphichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-38631681889186904652012-11-12T04:42:27.018+00:002012-11-12T04:42:27.018+00:00Hi Aunty, in fact there is a whole blog purely dev...Hi Aunty, in fact there is a whole blog purely devoted to sexuality from a Catholic perspective: http://realcatholicloveandsex.blogspot.com<br /><br />Not to say you should stop tho, I always enjoy your blog :-)Confused Australiannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-35332255418339510712012-11-10T12:08:14.811+00:002012-11-10T12:08:14.811+00:00I think she is her own agent :) [But you could ju...I think she is her own agent :) [But you could just email her - I don't know her personally, but I do know some of her family, and they are all very nice.]MaryJanenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-36323486344425757952012-11-10T11:42:41.258+00:002012-11-10T11:42:41.258+00:00That is, what it might have been.That is, what it might have been.Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-48151099840199675132012-11-10T11:42:16.043+00:002012-11-10T11:42:16.043+00:00@ MaryJane Ah, the incomparable Simcha! Who is her...@ MaryJane Ah, the incomparable Simcha! Who is her agent, that's what I want to know. <br /><br />Urszula, I'm glad you like the swashbuckling protector. Isn't he fierce? I'm sort of glad it was really the Aussies, not a Canadian, who killed him. In a way, it's a mercy he was killed because one shudders to think of his subsequent career. Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-37077034430516489482012-11-09T19:53:42.700+00:002012-11-09T19:53:42.700+00:00Nothing to add except a double thank you - for en...Nothing to add except a double thank you - for encouraging us to never settle, and... for the swashbuckling protector of today!Urszulahttp://whereismysuitcase.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-11204949740257258802012-11-09T17:42:51.237+00:002012-11-09T17:42:51.237+00:00I'm glad you blog like this. It's real. ...I'm glad you blog like this. It's real. (And, just so you know you are not *completely* alone in the Catholic women's blogosphere... Simcha blogs (or blogged) a lot about sex for married women.)MaryJanenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-27817299086108846982012-11-09T16:22:28.348+00:002012-11-09T16:22:28.348+00:00A Mending Heart, sometimes I wonder why I blog lik...A Mending Heart, sometimes I wonder why I blog like this and if I have to be quite so frank all the time, and then I get a comment like yours and I think, "Right! This is why I blog." I'm very sorry you went through all that, and no: years of pain and trauma cannot magically disappear, short of a miracle. Through the grace of God they can be gradually healed and, I firmly believe, even the worst scars will disappear in the next world, if not this one. God bless you.<br /> <br />Christine P, I'm sorry that happened to you. Amazing how in our oversexed world, nobody ever--EVER--seems to mention this little condition. It's not something I would want unmarried readers to worry about unduly--for obvious reasons--but definitely, definitely married readers should know this exists. Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-58751125958802878702012-11-09T15:12:28.652+00:002012-11-09T15:12:28.652+00:00On the "you may develop this syndrome" t...On the "you may develop this syndrome" topic, I just want to encourage any women who *have* done so that it can be overcome. <br /><br />I developed vaginismus about a month after my wedding -- which was emotionally very difficult as I felt I was a bad wife etc. etc. (My husband is amazing and could not have been more supportive, so the "bad wife" thing was, I assure you, entirely in my own head). I saw my doctor and got diagnosed, but she didn't have any advice other than "give it some time and try again" -- which is NOT effective as vaginismus is a reflexive syndrome, and you don't magically un-develop reflexes by waiting them out. <br /><br />Instead I found <a href="http://www.vaginismus.com/" rel="nofollow">this site</a> and with some trepidation I ordered their kit. It was honestly the best $100 I've ever spent, and after diligent work we were able to get things working normally again. If you have vaginismus (whether married or not -- if you've never been able to use a tampon this is something to look into!) please, please don't lose hope. This is a treatable and fixable thing. <br /><br />Sorry for the topic hijack, Auntie S, but I just wanted to get this out there. I had never heard of vaginismus before it happened to be and it was incredibly discouraging and bewildering; I thought there was something terribly wrong with me. But there wasn't. I just needed a little help. Christine P.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-90862471941973478922012-11-09T15:10:22.828+00:002012-11-09T15:10:22.828+00:00"Once upon a time nobody cared if women enjoy...<i>"Once upon a time nobody cared if women enjoyed sex, and many people thought we shouldn't, or thought we would just get used to it, but the fact is there is nothing that makes you hate a man you used to like more effectively than having to have sex with him when your body/psyche doesn't like sex with him...<br /><br /> ...(Believe me on this. Sometimes it literally doesn't work, if you develop this syndrome, for example) And the contemporary man doesn't just want sex, he wants to be praised for it, too." </i><br /><br />Yes, YES, a <b>HUNDRED</b> times yes! <br /><br />Auntie Seraphic, it makes me want to cry with joy to have read this coming from you. Having made that very mistake, and consequently having developed that very syndrome, amidst other very serious medical/psychological conditions, I can only tell you how much I wish this post had been written several years earlier. The end results for me have been devastating in many, many ways, although the one beacon of hope is that I have grounds for an annulment. It, however, does not magically undo years of pain and trauma. <br /><br />Don't settle girls, whatever you do. I cannot say this often or loudly enough.A Mending Heartnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-5674152943631921412012-11-09T15:10:03.406+00:002012-11-09T15:10:03.406+00:00Hear, hear.
I don't feel that I have anything...Hear, hear.<br /><br />I don't feel that I have anything more to add, so I shall instead quote Miss Elizabeth Bennet, who said, 'Nothing but the very deepest love will induce me to matrimony.'Quiet bystandernoreply@blogger.com