tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post2702188010778358016..comments2023-12-25T11:13:04.495+00:00Comments on Seraphic Singles: Men and Women are DifferentSeraphichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-82931269568167335562011-04-27T16:53:13.173+01:002011-04-27T16:53:13.173+01:00"Despise" does seem a bit strong, perhap..."Despise" does seem a bit strong, perhaps "disregard"?Jamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18076215213828545013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-44429523541803613492011-04-27T15:59:48.980+01:002011-04-27T15:59:48.980+01:00I agree with JoeTheGuy & also disagree with yo...I agree with JoeTheGuy & also disagree with you on this. Or I do agree, but I think men hate being taken advantage even more than women do, so it's even more of a bad idea to ask them for favors. Of course, I think it is generally rude to ask for favors too often and without some sort of reciprocation. Don't be a burden.<br /><br />Men and women are different, very different, in all the ways you name.<br /><br />They are not so different in their attitude toward chores and their propensity to volunteer domesticity in the hopes of romance.<br /><br />I have heard so many men, in real life and on the Internet, complain that they were stuck being "friends" even though they "did all this stuff for her!" They resented being stuck in the friend zone and they REALLY resented that their chivalrous natures were taken advantage of. If men are different in their chivalry, it is precisely because of this difference that women should think twice before calling up their guy friend to do something a wife would only ask her husband to do. The response of these men was basically the same response as a woman who does chores for a guy in the hopes that he'll see how great a girlfriend/wife she'd make. I've never read or heard comments from men wishing they could wear heels and makeup, but I have read so many complaints about unrequited favors, high-maintenance girlfriends, and selfish women that I realize that male psychology includes difficulty saying "no" AND finite patience. Don't wear out your male friends, co-worker, boyfriend, or even your husband. <br /><br />Nobody likes to be take advantage of, or in mild guy-talk "whipped." That they have a special slang for it means they think about it even more than we do. It also really explains why women should NEVER do the man's chores; they have so many hangups about favors that you should want no part of that scene.<br /><br />The only point I'd agree on is that women must NEVER do chores but men might be able to SOMETIMES, especially if it's something they love to do and do generally for lots of people, and they just did it without you asking.sciencegirlhttp://www.kuchimakase.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-48776314183259683502011-04-27T14:56:39.923+01:002011-04-27T14:56:39.923+01:00"The reason for this is that men secretly des..."The reason for this is that men secretly despise unrelated women who cook and clean for them for nothing, and women do not despise unrelated men who will fix stuff and remove monsters simply out of the goodness of their hearts.*"<br /><br />Disagree. Let me say that I don't disagree with the substance of your point. I think that women would be prudent not to do household work for men they are not married to, however I disagree with your justification that men secretly despise such women. Here's why:<br /><br />The operative words in the above statement are <i>for nothing</i> and therefore a direct analogy can be made with pre-marital sex and the aphorism quoted by Janet Smith in one of her defenses of Humanae Vitae: "why would you buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?". A man is not going to object to a woman doing his work for him for (seemingly) nothing, that would just be irrational. He'll just think to himself: "Hmmm...she must actually like doing that work, who am I to stop her". When in reality it is that the woman has jumped the gun and she wishes to do wife-like things for a guy, without actually being a wife or a girlfriend, and then when the man does not reciprocate this "love" she gets offended.joeTHEguynoreply@blogger.com