tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post3402116637966166066..comments2023-12-25T11:13:04.495+00:00Comments on Seraphic Singles: Auntie Seraphic & How Will We Know?Seraphichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-78117064636529804342012-08-31T15:05:40.672+01:002012-08-31T15:05:40.672+01:00Interesetingly, a year so before I met my husband,...Interesetingly, a year so before I met my husband, I posted a profile on one of those Catholic dating sites you don't like. Nothing came of it, but it forced me to think, and write, about what sort of man I was looking for. It was harder than I ever thought possible. Until then, I just thought, "you get what you get". I really hadn't thought that I could have a say in what I wanted.<br /><br />So I ended up writing something that boiled down to, "I'm looking for a man who loves God and can take a couple of two-by-fours and make something beautiful". And then I realized that I had basically described Jesus.<br /><br />A year or so later, I met Jamie on another dating site that you hate even more, and while he was nice, I didn't think it would work out AT ALL because he had no college education and he didn't look like what I imagined "the one" to look. But then I came appreciate how nice he was, how into me he was, how smart he was. And he loved God. And he was a CARPENTER. Just like Jesus.<br /><br />So go figure. The best I can say is to quote my grandmother: "When its right, you'll know. If you don't know, then he's not the right man." The other thing she used to say: "You want a man who fits like an old shoe but shines like a new one."<br /><br />: )KimPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11713499438047823595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-56898355091183077872012-08-25T04:12:03.416+01:002012-08-25T04:12:03.416+01:00Thanks for writing your blog, as always. There are...Thanks for writing your blog, as always. There are so many pearls of wisdom. Bethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-45670009441503508382012-08-24T23:22:38.205+01:002012-08-24T23:22:38.205+01:00It wasn't--I think Christianity was. Oddly en...It wasn't--I think Christianity was. Oddly enough, they met at a Catholic university.MEGnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-20040173568640228292012-08-24T17:53:17.913+01:002012-08-24T17:53:17.913+01:00I was being pursued by a rather nice guy at the sa...I was being pursued by a rather nice guy at the same time my sisters were in town visiting. My older sister told me to give the guy a chance after we had all gone out for drinks one night. He was a few years younger than my "age limit" allowed, but she reminded me that we had the same core values and he was very kind. I did give him a chance and it soon became obvious (to us and everyone around us) that he was the perfect man for me. I am so glad I didn't let his age scare me away. <br /><br />He did do one thing, though, that won my heart: I asked for his help in finding a drum set for my autistic sister to practice with while she was visiting. His friend with a set was out of town, so he rented a music studio for my sister. It meant the world to her! And his kindness toward her melted my heart. :)<br /><br />ceciliamariahttp://cecilia-maria.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-44498872376965773522012-08-24T08:15:12.070+01:002012-08-24T08:15:12.070+01:00Dear me! I hope the short name wasn't her core...Dear me! I hope the short name wasn't her core value. ;-DSeraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-4798287594564670262012-08-24T02:06:37.105+01:002012-08-24T02:06:37.105+01:00This post reminds me of a friend who had very spec...This post reminds me of a friend who had very specific expectations for her man. She planned to marry a Catholic, taller than herself (she's 5'9"), who had a simpler last name than her Polish one. She is now happily married to a short Baptist named Smith.<br /><br />This is why I try to avoid picture my "perfect man"; aside from core values, expectations just seem to get in the way.MEGnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-24750679559010828112012-08-23T14:00:13.996+01:002012-08-23T14:00:13.996+01:00I meant to say that the friend of mine and I are d...I meant to say that the friend of mine and I are dating two different guys who are friends (one of us hooked the other couple up, which I strongly recommend all dating couples do - find your most quality friends and get them together!).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-6110152653584963572012-08-23T13:58:29.989+01:002012-08-23T13:58:29.989+01:00This post is particularly timely for a friend of m...This post is particularly timely for a friend of mine, who have been dating a pair of friends for a few months. The guys are cradle Catholics who have in the past few years started getting more involved in diocesan events and going deeper in their faith, but not as much as the two of us girls, who are both converts and long-time evangelical intellectual types. We are both working in the legal world and love to talk endlessly about BIG IDEAS. We have been wondering if these more simple, but honorable guys are the ONES. My friend's spiritual director recently wrote her an email in response to these types of questions that I thought was uber-wise and very much along the lines of your post. Here it is:<br />" think the most important thing in this relationship is to preserve its simplicity and naturalness. You know that he is a practicing Catholic (could afford to do more....). But you also want to know that he is just a regular guy as well. Kick the tires. You want to know that he has the natural virtues necessary for you to entrust yourself to him. If he lacks them, no amount of devotion can suffice...and you should part ways. If he has them, then he has the platform necessary for more virtues."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com