tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post3480888623268341831..comments2023-12-25T11:13:04.495+00:00Comments on Seraphic Singles: Why I Don't Like Giving Chastity TalksSeraphichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-78461163375472971652012-05-29T04:00:48.382+01:002012-05-29T04:00:48.382+01:00Totally agree with you (and Simcha) on this count!...Totally agree with you (and Simcha) on this count! I had this same talk when I was in high scool. I was never overly impressed with the chastity talks given, but sometimes it seems as though you can't admit that without people thinking you're some kind of heretic.Emmanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-38168944242947461792012-05-29T03:54:42.734+01:002012-05-29T03:54:42.734+01:00We are ALL somewhat damaged. Life does that to us...We are ALL somewhat damaged. Life does that to us, but it's absolutely infuriating to be told that such "damage" makes us incapable of love, whether that damage be a sexual past or psychological scars.<br /><br />When I was 18, I got one of the best chastity talks I've ever heard. The woman, a few years older than me, married a virgin but was not. He asked her what there was for just them - what was special that set their relationship apart from any other. She said she wished she had waited. <br /><br />Part of how we say "yes" to Heaven is to say "no" to earthly things. Likewise, some of the "yes" to our future husbands (if such creatures exist) belongs in saying "no" to every non-husband out there.theobromophilenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-52476602563535659762012-05-28T05:19:41.926+01:002012-05-28T05:19:41.926+01:00St Josemaria Escriva never talked about chastity p...St Josemaria Escriva never talked about chastity per se, that is a parental responsibility - but he was big on purity in all its various meanings. I think sometimes we're a little too willing to talk about stuff that perhaps should remain in the realm of the private and discrete, just we won't be blamed about having hang ups about sex.Miss Doylenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-44557990802366140442012-05-27T18:52:26.807+01:002012-05-27T18:52:26.807+01:00Well said Seraph :). I think that these talks end...Well said Seraph :). I think that these talks end up doing more harm than good. Teenagers have a lot on their plate, especially the women. I am still dealing with years of bad self-esteem, etc due to how I was treated (being called names, etc). These types of chastity talks can probably end up making the girls feel worse than they already are. One of the reasons girls become promiscuous is due to poor self-esteem, image, and respect. That could be brought on by their family life, etc. I don't think you can use a one size fits all approach to chastity/abstinence talks which is why the parents need to be the ones who talk to their children about it, not some talk in school.rachelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-55874121411235965412012-05-26T14:47:41.091+01:002012-05-26T14:47:41.091+01:00I always hated the term pure for unmarried virgins...I always hated the term pure for unmarried virgins. Because if unmarried virgins are pure, what does that make married non-virgins? See, that just doesn't work out nicely. <br /><br />Once I read in a pro-life book about how wrong the phrase damaged goods is. A woman is not goods like you would find in a store. A woman is a human person. Sure a woman's soul or psyche maybe be damaged or there may be a damaged physical part (like damaged or bruised nerve or leg), but our worth is never damaged. It just may feel damaged.Lenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09173616693453942166noreply@blogger.com