tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post3560314842483471771..comments2023-12-25T11:13:04.495+00:00Comments on Seraphic Singles: The Best Approach to Internet Dating I Ever SawSeraphichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-3057353080054571462013-11-23T00:45:13.802+00:002013-11-23T00:45:13.802+00:00Haha! Pearlmusic, if I'm honest, I used to be ...Haha! Pearlmusic, if I'm honest, I used to be a fake redhead too! I liked it a lot, but I couldn't be bothered maintaining it, so I'm back to my natural blonde now. I didn't notice getting any more or less attention from men either as a 'redhead' or a blonde though.Julianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-55763189094211487422013-11-22T17:43:52.831+00:002013-11-22T17:43:52.831+00:00*redhead, my gosh!*redhead, my gosh!Pearlmusicnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-69165542711875501942013-11-22T17:41:50.368+00:002013-11-22T17:41:50.368+00:00I'm chiming in as a former "fake readhead...I'm chiming in as a former "fake readhead" and natural ash blonde. Gingers do attract men certainly much more than ash blondies(my ex dumped me for a natural readhead, ouch!) and probably this was a part of my decision to dye my hair dark copper last winter :D<br />However it was fun and it allowed me to put on a stronger make-up. Now I'm my subtle blonde self again, with only sightly brighter hair colour than my natural and that's fine, too.<br />By the way, I'm not sure if there is one universal strategy of attracting the right person for everyone (we're all so different and you can never tell which man will find which feature more attractive, after all), but being the best possible version of who we really are.Pearlmusicnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-4716173687602253902013-11-22T08:09:59.711+00:002013-11-22T08:09:59.711+00:00Ah yes! Reader N who sent it to me thought it woul...Ah yes! Reader N who sent it to me thought it would not be appropriate for Catholic readers, perhaps for that very reason. <br /><br />I suppose that timeline makes sense on the secular Jewish community and perhaps even in most non-Catholic communities in the USA, particularly in the cities. <br /><br />My thought is to take whatever from this video may be useful to you and to reject all that goes against virtue. Prudence is definitely a virtue.Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-17302976693134378342013-11-22T06:08:56.451+00:002013-11-22T06:08:56.451+00:00I was bemused that her timeline included co-habita...I was bemused that her timeline included co-habitation as an taken-for-granted step up the ladder to marriage.<br /><br />--C.B.Catholic Bibliophagisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10697706672495544901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-72355918179443825522013-11-22T04:25:54.702+00:002013-11-22T04:25:54.702+00:00I stumbled across that video about a month ago, an...I stumbled across that video about a month ago, and I was intrigued, too! Stories like hers are always just a bit unsettling, though. I'm always torn between waiting to see what God has in store and wondering if I will do something huge to set my story in motion, too. How am I supposed to know if my love story starts with a whisper or an explosion?Lindsay @ Lindsay Loveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17851651248359760680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-21726211330349375812013-11-22T03:59:33.880+00:002013-11-22T03:59:33.880+00:00Yeah, I suppose redheads do get picked on a bit! I...Yeah, I suppose redheads do get picked on a bit! I can sympathise because I'm blonde, and we all know about 'dumb blonde' jokes. Australians have a slightly offensive but affectionate term for redheads, but I could never work out why redheads are made fun of. I mean, look at how many women dye their hair red. Why would they do that if it's such an awful thing to be redheaded?Julianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-10776325994191458522013-11-22T01:14:11.841+00:002013-11-22T01:14:11.841+00:00Her story about the very bad expensive restaurant ...Her story about the very bad expensive restaurant date was horrifying. What kind of awful slime-ball abandons his date with a $1300 tab?! If that every happens to me, that man will be hunted and brought to his just deserts.<br /><br />I kind of recoil at the thought of orchestrating a calculus for my dating life, but she was tremendously clever about it. I have no interest in trying out online dating, but I've had a lot of friends find success with sites that focus more on 'values' type questions and require you to rank and prioritize them, approximating something like her point system. But there still remains the problem of there being considerably more women than men on dating sites, and the ratio only seems to get worse as you move up age-groups. Jonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-65834164289359544772013-11-22T00:22:00.042+00:002013-11-22T00:22:00.042+00:00What if Mr. Right is not on any dating sites '...What if Mr. Right is not on any dating sites 'cause he thinks they're lame? <br />FifiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-4849786913916828632013-11-21T23:07:45.868+00:002013-11-21T23:07:45.868+00:00Yes there are certainly Ginger websites in the UK....Yes there are certainly Ginger websites in the UK. One reason is that, believe it or not, red-headed people get picked on a lot. This is not so bad in Scotland, which has the highest number of redheads ("gingerS") per capita (so to speak), but it is apparently pretty bad in England. Meanwhile "redhead" is definitely a male niche interest. Not sure there is a male niche interest in the "brown-eyed", especially as something like 90% of the world has brown or hazel eyes. Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-56348272868188248222013-11-21T20:14:01.464+00:002013-11-21T20:14:01.464+00:00Are there seriously dating websites for people see...Are there seriously dating websites for people seeking redheads in particular? I don't do online dating, so I have no idea what's out there. I've never heard of sites that are for people wanting to find dates who have certain physical characteristics (brown eyes, blonde hair, height etc.) Julianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-64625345044258587362013-11-21T17:58:38.945+00:002013-11-21T17:58:38.945+00:00It's interesting how she used her personal tal...It's interesting how she used her personal talents to tackle the subject of her singleness. Isn't this exactly what you were mentioning, Seraphic, by saying we should be the best and happiest singles that we can be? And this makes us attractive. Basically, she used her talents and what she was naturally good at/interested in. <br /><br />In the same vein, Still Waters, I would recommend discovering/exploring the strengths of being an introvert. I know I've touted this before on this blog, but the book "Quiet - the power of introverts" is a great resource. It shows you how to play to your strengths in social situations (and they exist! Introverts are better at drawing out others, focusing on substantive conversations, etc). <br /><br />Also, just getting out there and getting used to being in different social situations should help. I know I was reserved and shy as a homeschooled child but going to high school in a foreign country forced me to get out of my comfort zone, and that got easier and easier with time. Urszulahttp://whereismysuitcase.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-24582226338464678232013-11-21T16:01:15.180+00:002013-11-21T16:01:15.180+00:00That was such a great video! There were so many ti...That was such a great video! There were so many times during her story when, in the same circumstances, I would have crumbled into a hopeless, emotional mess or abandoned the numbers thinking "ok, I can take it from here" (likely to disastrous consequences). But she persevered with the nerves of a fighter pilot! And she made a system that worked perfectly for her, using her own brainy talents, instead of subjecting herself to the bar scene or whatever. There is just so much to like about this lady! Her story makes me feel like I can conjure a relationship using flow charts. At least it inspires me to try. <br /><br />Still Waters, maybe the approach is to make a list of those traits that others like the most about you. It could be a fun exercise and a solid starting point for learning which aspects of yourself to highlight around strangers - or what kind of guys to look for.Woodbinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-17240823528981427572013-11-21T15:57:45.212+00:002013-11-21T15:57:45.212+00:00I've never been into online dating half on pri...I've never been into online dating half on principal, and half because of the kind of dates she went on in the beginning! bad dates are easy to get, so why pay for the possibility of more bad dates?MCN Hobbshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15238275834876326001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-86430180418466540052013-11-21T13:46:19.116+00:002013-11-21T13:46:19.116+00:00I saw this video just last week, and was pretty fa...I saw this video just last week, and was pretty fascinated. It's made me really think about how I come across to people who don't know me, especially men.<br /><br />I am an introvert, shy and reserved with people I don't know well, and while I laugh easily at others, I'm not really an instigator of humor or "fun". I have never known how to flirt, and feel really uncomfortable "putting myself out there" like that. Those who know me consider me a gem, but I'm afraid my charms tend to be overlooked by those (men) who are looking cursorily. <br /><br />I would love to know how any of the other introverts out there present themselves publicly so that they catch the eye of an NCB.Still Waters...noreply@blogger.com