tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post450061665406345499..comments2023-12-25T11:13:04.495+00:00Comments on Seraphic Singles: Chesterton Would VomitSeraphichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-49867509427920970692011-10-25T20:25:48.791+01:002011-10-25T20:25:48.791+01:00"But for the past few decades they have watch..."But for the past few decades they have watched nightly TV instead, and so that's what people talk about and, unconsciously, learn from."<br /><br />Indeed. Those who tell the stories in culture form the culture and many get victimized by it....but really, we have to take some of the blame on ourselves, as Christians - we currently are practically non existent amongst the prominent storeytellers of our day (read - the media, creators of shows etc.) If we are putting up with a culture without Christ, it's because we've not made Him visible. He doesn't lessen or fade - we fail, are lukewarm, don't act out of conviction and then are influenced by and victim to what we allow.Alishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08803069677860028673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-87460457082107117942011-10-17T07:22:13.099+01:002011-10-17T07:22:13.099+01:00Moist towelettes?
"As if everyone did not kn...Moist towelettes?<br /><br /><i>"As if everyone did not know that while saints can afford to be dirty, seducers have to be clean. As if everyone did not know that the harlot must be clean, because it is her business to captivate, while the good wife may be dirty, because it is her business to clean."</i><br />-G.K. Chesterton, What's Wrong with the World.I_A_noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-58417941199333778552011-10-16T08:35:04.847+01:002011-10-16T08:35:04.847+01:00Oh dear, Jam, that's terrible. That's abso...Oh dear, Jam, that's terrible. That's absolutely terrible, and I think I'm going to go through "Humanae Vitae" to see if it predicted that situation would happen if society continued with the Sexual Revolution. <br /><br />If it's any consolation, there was dating in graduate school in 2004. As women get older they generally get more confidence, and as men get older they generally grow up. (Sadly women falling into their beds like sunny, unpaid prostitutes rather retards their growing up.) <br /><br />And, ironically, because I don't really like how they work, dating websites do mean at leas one date, not hooking up. And if you stick with Catholic dating websites (like Ave Maria Singles), then you are less likely to meet the kind of guys who just want to get laid. <br /><br />In real life, of course, all I can say is Newman Center, Newman Center, Newman Center, St. Thomas More Society, and any other trad Catholic group on campus. <br /><br />What a bizarre situation in which college men have less respect for college women (although they might not understand that's what it is) now than they did in the 1990s. <br /><br />Katie, I think you might be right about "Friends". A constant diet of "Friends" reruns would certainly change how people relate to reality. <br /><br />What a strange situation. People used to "read their Bible", and thus they had that shared heritage. But for the past few decades they have watched nightly TV instead, and so that's what people talk about and, unconsciously, learn from.Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-76931129544836757052011-10-15T23:27:08.616+01:002011-10-15T23:27:08.616+01:00For my age group (mid thirties) I think the progra...For my age group (mid thirties) I think the programme 'Friends' has a lot to answer for. I still watch re-runs (because it makes me laugh) but I cringe at the sexual morality (or lack of it) it pushes episode after episode. This is what I grew up with as a late teen and in my early twenties. Some examples: Ross laments he has not had sex in 3 months and this is treated as scandalous, the boys constantly refer to pornography in a way that makes it acceptable and necessary, Joey sleeps with anyone and this is supposed to be cute (no mention of STDs!!), I could go on. <br />The effect this programme (and other stuff ofcourse) had on my thinking as a young impressionable college student led to some pretty poor decision making.Katienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-19819315696425244202011-10-15T23:03:18.915+01:002011-10-15T23:03:18.915+01:00My first month at college, 2004, I was walking bac...My first month at college, 2004, I was walking back from a church event with one of the few people I had met at the Catholic center so far, and somehow ended up saying something about how I hadn't dated at all in high school but I hoped things would pick up in college. She told me in no uncertain terms that I was a naive idiot; there was no such thing as dating in college; and your choices were hooking up or being alone. By my senior year she had been proven right, which messed violently with my head for about a year or so. It's a cruel, hard, upsetting world out there.Jamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18076215213828545013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-63019166314183637352011-10-15T18:00:42.186+01:002011-10-15T18:00:42.186+01:00Sally seems to be very Margot-aged to me... I thin...Sally seems to be very Margot-aged to me... I think it's really interesting how her generation got to say no to guys who didn't call by Wednesday but our generation should accept hook-up invites and try to change them into dates "or we'll never meet someone." !!! Young women need to know that it's okay to say no to invitations from men; saying no to Mr. Wrong frees you up for Mr. Right. And if Mr. Right never comes along, at least you're not stuck trying to entertain and change Mr. Wrong!Little Marynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-21926836379047824172011-10-15T17:01:03.251+01:002011-10-15T17:01:03.251+01:00Perhaps Sally grew up in the South; even today, di...Perhaps Sally grew up in the South; even today, dinner dates are the more common ways of asking a woman out, not this business of "want to hang out and watch a movie?". <br /><br />While I can't comment on the prevalence of waxing nor how men expect it, I don't think that Sally is really far off in her description of the college dating scene. While I did know a few people who had steady boyfriends (and boyfriends who were willing to wait), the vast majority of the "dating" involved a man inviting the girl to his room to watch a movie on his computer and to make out - and then browbeat her for being a tease or not a proper feminist. (Older men, and men who grew up in more traditional households did not act like that.)<br /><br />The best way that I can explain modern, non-Catholic dating is that I've had several dozen men ask me for sex but I was thirty before a man gave me flowers. (Let that one process for a bit. Yuck.)theobromophilenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-52034493161708962982011-10-15T13:22:36.678+01:002011-10-15T13:22:36.678+01:00I couldn't walk yet by the end of the '80s...I couldn't walk yet by the end of the '80s, so I have no comment on whether men would walk you to your door. (Maybe I'll ask my mother sometime.)<br /><br />I can say, though, that pretty much none of the male university students I knew would ever summon a woman by text. (In my four years there, there was one guy who set off my spidey sense, and I avoided him, but even he didn't seem the sort to text. More to lure you to his house and then proposition you.) And it was a well-known cultural expectation on my campus that if you were ever afraid at night you could call one of your male friends to walk you back to your door, no questions asked. It did not have to be your boyfriend, and the gesture was not seen as romantic in any way. <br /><br />I'll admit I went to a very unusual college, but still. Hope for the future?The Sojournerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04559244806125834569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-75301126819558256812011-10-15T11:30:25.369+01:002011-10-15T11:30:25.369+01:00I guess Sally could be anywhere from about 42 to 6...I guess Sally could be anywhere from about 42 to 66. Her ideas about dating certainly seem to belong more to a slightly idealised 1950s than the 1980s but even in Edinburgh and Cambridge in the 80s guys would walk you to your door. I'm afraid I could only bear to read some of the comments, when it got to the one that accused the girl of being snooty I reached for my paper bag and gave up.margarethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07727534908302610374noreply@blogger.com