tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post4718105492423182091..comments2023-12-25T11:13:04.495+00:00Comments on Seraphic Singles: Another Use for NFPSeraphichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-86152377002306265312012-03-15T16:41:37.586+00:002012-03-15T16:41:37.586+00:00A man left a comment (I can't find it now) ask...A man left a comment (I can't find it now) asking if chit-chat was always so threatening. The answer to that is no--sometimes it is just incredibly boring. And an imposition.Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-82511121635233175352012-03-15T04:52:10.590+00:002012-03-15T04:52:10.590+00:00As for the last few paragraphs, I'm trying to ...As for the last few paragraphs, I'm trying to figure out a way to say, "Please call when you say you're going to call and not an hour later" without sounding like an overscheduled maniac. But I think it's so rude when a guy keeps a girl waiting. But really, why do we have to be so careful of guys' feelings when it involves something they're doing that actually bothers US? Why are we so afraid of making them angry? Something is wrong there if we're acting like they're the fragile ones.Charming Disarrayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15481799867576915560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-3390984008144747542012-03-15T04:40:59.922+00:002012-03-15T04:40:59.922+00:00I guess my friends and I have always done the retr...I guess my friends and I have always done the retreating ourselves--either to the kitchen or a back bedroom. Men will sometimes venture into the kitchen but are usually too scared to enter a flowery looking bedroom full of girls talking in low voices who go silent as soon as he appears in the doorway.Charming Disarrayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15481799867576915560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-55888439496850887072012-03-14T17:56:38.600+00:002012-03-14T17:56:38.600+00:00Ooh, this is a REALLY difficult one. Men can be s...Ooh, this is a REALLY difficult one. Men can be so challenging. If you are forthright, many of them will be grateful for the obvious and happily leave you. But other ones will be slightly offended. (I used to think the slightly offended ones were all pansies. Turns out some of them are just genuinely nice guys.) I think the playful threat (not flirtatious! just playful) can be helpful. The serious request to leave is softened by the jovial packaging. And if he can't take the hint, you can just say, "no really, actually I've been dying to talk to Susie about cervical mucous all night, but it's kind of a girl thing." <br /><br />I think the trick is to make him think that it is his idea to leave you alone, rather than think that you are pushing him away. Somehow, in his mind, it has to be the manly thing to leave rather than the manly thing to stay. Men always want to do the manly thing.<br /><br />Incidentally, I have noticed that older and/or married men are MUCH better at taking hints. They are also usually dying for a little man time themselves. It is the young/singles that tend to be a little more obtuse.MaryJanenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-17145247653844715302012-03-14T15:12:11.460+00:002012-03-14T15:12:11.460+00:00Best blog post title ever! :) But I don't qu...Best blog post title ever! :) But I don't quite understand the question. If you want not to be around a guy, just move away from him. If you want to talk to your girl friends about something girly at a mixed company party, do it. If you don't want to be overheard by men, don't do it--save it for an all-girls party. I have never had trouble with my "leave me alone" or "I am done talking to you now" cues being misunderstood, probably because they included my saying something like, "Well, now I am going to go over here and do x [implied: WITHOUT you]." Go to the ladies room as a last resort. Come to think of it, I might not be the best person to ask about these things, because the avoidance tactics I have managed to develop are maybe among the best in the business. They might even be outright rude at times . . . but better that than get myself in a situation that I don't want to be in, I figure!Sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06221464682706193091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-4297860638402213442012-03-14T14:57:00.449+00:002012-03-14T14:57:00.449+00:00I will admit to very occasionally just making firm...I will admit to very occasionally just making firm eye contact and saying "Would you excuse us please?" With a good friend, though, it's as simple as, "You'd better put your fingers in your ears if you plan to stick around much longer!"Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12543778974085045141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-61765300938711628692012-03-14T14:44:26.940+00:002012-03-14T14:44:26.940+00:00My male friends have told me that ignoring men is ...My male friends have told me that ignoring men is the way to make them go away/stop trying to talk to you. This is in the phoning/emailing/texting/facebooking arena, however, and I haven't tried it outrightly in a face to face scenario. I thought perhaps giving VERY short answers and finding something else/someone else with whom to be preoccupied would do the trick....but it never does.RMVBnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-256789923374908842012-03-14T11:24:39.079+00:002012-03-14T11:24:39.079+00:00Sometimes just being a woman makes us want to flee...Sometimes just being a woman makes us want to flee the room:<br /><br />http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=why-interacting-with-woman-leave-man-cognitively-impaired<br /><br />At least our minds flee.<br /><br />On a more serious note, I usually take it as a cue to go away when I'm the only male in the group. Men can usually sense when the female presence is too strong.Timothyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17394136098594570091noreply@blogger.com