tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post6064231105183423577..comments2023-12-25T11:13:04.495+00:00Comments on Seraphic Singles: Let Your Yes Be Yes...Seraphichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-31323678212392144172011-08-02T15:51:25.969+01:002011-08-02T15:51:25.969+01:00Oh dear. It is true that there are these freaky ex...Oh dear. It is true that there are these freaky exceptions. They are definitely not rooted in reality!Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-92077654333900256422011-08-01T20:55:01.254+01:002011-08-01T20:55:01.254+01:00LOVE the advice! Women need to be told over and o...LOVE the advice! Women need to be told over and over that they do not have owe giant karmic debt to anything with a Y chromosome that must be repaid with their pain, a freakish display of selflessness, or the like. (Anyone want to guess what the first seven or so years of my dating life were like?)<br /><br /><i>But my point is that you never have to see a man again if you don't want to, and you can date a man for a year and then say "No" if he asks you to marry him. </i><br /><br />What is not okay is to waste some man's time, to string him along because he buys you dinner or you don't want to be alone. One of the few things you owe all men is courtesy and good will - what you would expect from him. We don't want men to waste our time, we don't expect men to believe that inviting us to coffee is tantamount to an engagement ring (if that were true, expect to not be invited to coffee, dinner, or the prom until age 25, at least), and we would like men to treat us with respect. That's pretty much the sum total of what we owe them in return.<br /><br />As for dating for a year and discerning marriage: one of the many very practical benefits of being a nice Catholic girl, to be euphemistic, is that it is hard to date for years on end without marriage. It forces both parties to make decisions that need to be made.theobromophilenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-82163416244319565012011-08-01T19:38:42.470+01:002011-08-01T19:38:42.470+01:00Brilliant advice as ever!Brilliant advice as ever!Multum Incolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04817574956365161041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-41820845612580415092011-08-01T19:16:00.453+01:002011-08-01T19:16:00.453+01:00I completely agree with everything you wrote, and ...I completely agree with everything you wrote, and think that it is very true about almost all men.<br /><br />However, there are exceptions. Recently I agreed to go on a date with a man. In my mind, that was all I agreed to. A little later, I discovered that what he thought I was agreeing to was becoming his serious girlfriend, and spending all my foreseeable weekends with him. He was very hurt and offended when, after two dates, I gently let him know that I was no longer interested in dating him, and became quite nasty about it. This, of course, only confirmed me in my decision to have no further contact with him.<br /><br />So, yes, most nice guys mean what they say and ONLY what they say. The weirdos, on the other hand...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-45896432698371869742011-08-01T18:12:24.539+01:002011-08-01T18:12:24.539+01:00Excellent advice, of course! I appreciate your com...Excellent advice, of course! I appreciate your comment "Men are very literal. When they say something, they do not usually mean something other than what they are saying. "... Because if we women would finally just BELIEVE THIS, I think dating and relationships would suddenly become much, much easier!Christine Falk Dalessiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10079647740999376500noreply@blogger.com