tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post6458041474332389823..comments2023-12-25T11:13:04.495+00:00Comments on Seraphic Singles: Auntie Seraphic & Ivana Dance!Seraphichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-58256355540476403572011-07-25T05:52:38.209+01:002011-07-25T05:52:38.209+01:00I'm definitely the type who leaves when the sm...I'm definitely the type who leaves when the smile wears off.Bridgetnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-35988613290947160912011-07-24T16:13:16.171+01:002011-07-24T16:13:16.171+01:00I am so glad you addressed this topic. Luckily, I ...I am so glad you addressed this topic. Luckily, I haven't had to attend a wedding in several years.Lenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09173616693453942166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-39806658823444885362011-07-23T01:44:45.725+01:002011-07-23T01:44:45.725+01:00I've found that I really enjoyed weddings when...I've found that I really enjoyed weddings when one of the girl gang gets married, because then it's a big group of us friends celebrating. Some weddings with my male friends have also been like this. However, when it's the wedding of someone I know and I'm not part of the pack, but know people from work, activities, etc., it's really a lousy time. That you don't really know anyone there really underscores the downside of being Single: you <i>have</i> to go to such events alone, 100% of the time, because, well, you don't have a husband and then you're stuck there... alone. Weddings are bad places to feel lonely, let me tell you.theobromophilenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-75471202783363919182011-07-22T16:29:06.359+01:002011-07-22T16:29:06.359+01:00Having experienced wedding angst myself once or tw...Having experienced wedding angst myself once or twice, I've wondered whether there's anything I can do to prevent my own wedding from causing angst for my single friends. <br /><br />Thinking back, though, it's hard to come up with anything the couples whose weddings I attended could have done to prevent it. It's quite impossible to avoid making people think about marriage at a wedding; and while I could go around assuring my friends that they aren't going to lose me, I don't think that would be entirely honest because in a certain sense they are. Being married means you're obliged to rate your spouse and children above your friends.<br /><br />Perhaps the best thing to do is to remind oneself of the promise of heaven, where there will be no marriage because we'll be united in love with everyone equally. The need to give certain people more of our love and attention right now is really only a temporary problem as long as we have hope for salvation.<br /><br />...Aside from that, though, I can at least promise my friends that nothing will be tossed if I can help it. ;-)JCnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-62285056355081208152011-07-22T14:15:55.657+01:002011-07-22T14:15:55.657+01:00Ever been at a wedding where you were the only sin...Ever been at a wedding where you were the only single person above the age of 12 and below the age of 65? And because of this you were put at a table of widows all 65 and over? <br /><br />I just haven't been lucky enough to be at a wedding since the age of 20 in which it was going to be possible to have a genuine good time. <br /><br />However, I always manage to keep the "enjoying myself" face on at all times.BurgoFitzgeraldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04488655902681432534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-68307974845832531732011-07-22T11:25:39.305+01:002011-07-22T11:25:39.305+01:00O sorry, sorry! That wasn't meant as an attack...O sorry, sorry! That wasn't meant as an attack. :-(Notburgahttp://exlaodicea.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-44316749143904615352011-07-22T10:24:12.267+01:002011-07-22T10:24:12.267+01:00Urgh, how I hate that tossing of the bouquet to al...Urgh, how I hate that tossing of the bouquet to all the single girls - it's so demeaning! Seraphic is right - it's the dumbest ritual on the planet.<br /><br />I don't go to many weddings - I suppose my friends and I just haven't hit that time in our lives yet, but one of the most recent ones I attended, an announcement went out to all the single available girls to gather around to catch the bouquet. <br />I resolutely stayed seated, continued my conversation until I was dragged up there - then put a very tall girl in front of me while all the other girls pretended to have a full-on cat fight in order to be the one to catch the bouquet. It was funny in the end, but I will never do that at my wedding - or the garter thing. That's just gross.Mrs Doylenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-52249446324962860692011-07-22T10:19:40.442+01:002011-07-22T10:19:40.442+01:00I certainly wonder about that, too. For the life o...I certainly wonder about that, too. For the life of me I cannot understand why people divide people into such strangely formal groupings as "Cousins of Bride" and "Random Male Friends of Groom." And it is extremely thoughtless to stick two or three Single people of the same sex at a table full of married couples. <br /><br />At one Canadian wedding I was at, the Bride kindly arranged Singles tables. There was an English-speaking Singles table, and a French-speaking Singles table. As luck would have it, the cutest bachelor there was French-speaking, but I got to dance with him after dinner.Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-501964291320991772011-07-22T09:13:22.198+01:002011-07-22T09:13:22.198+01:00I have to admit, I was quitely and mildly angry at...I have to admit, I was quitely and mildly angry at some of the marrying couples in the last three weddings, since they have seated me either next to my siblings or on a table with the friends of the groom (all male or couples). With the last wedding, alle female friends of the bride sat on the other table and there was really no communication between people of these tables. <br /><br />I wonder why the people don't think more about mixing up the people a little bit?Michaelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-27945133162041938052011-07-22T03:59:01.668+01:002011-07-22T03:59:01.668+01:00Yes, I found dancing with the "junior groomsm...Yes, I found dancing with the "junior groomsmen" at my best friend's wedding extremely fun. Especially as I was the Maid of Honour and couldn't really leave early or just sit on the side. Unfortunately the Best Man was a shocking dancer! I did get to dance with the groom though - my new "Best Friend - in-law"aussie girl in australianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-40859094341198524652011-07-22T02:02:18.329+01:002011-07-22T02:02:18.329+01:00For those weddings or anniversary or graduation pa...For those weddings or anniversary or graduation parties in which there is no "talent" to be available to, and slow dances are even MORE gloom inducing, let me advocate the perfect slow-dance partner: a newborn baby! <br /><br />I snagged one of my friends' kids once and did this and it was ssoooo fun! Definitely doesn't say "Hi, dance with me, I'm available" though, so save it for the nights when the only men there are the ones you want to discourage (unless you are a serious single and don't care!)fifihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10707768899655106067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-36624750214727299572011-07-21T23:53:06.480+01:002011-07-21T23:53:06.480+01:00As for the Single guys, I agree. Stop hanging arou...As for the Single guys, I agree. Stop hanging around the bar so much, and ask girls to dance. Getting the groom or a pal to actually INTRODUCE you to the girls will break the ice, get the ball rolling, and not make it so awkward for you or for them when you ask.Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-68866011336535212012011-07-21T23:51:39.592+01:002011-07-21T23:51:39.592+01:00I am all for smiling.
I congratulated all Single ...I am all for smiling.<br /><br />I congratulated all Single girls who do not get Singles' Wedding Angst during or immediately after a wedding. That is excellent. Many girls write in to say that they get it, and they feel badly, thinking there is something wrong with them for not being !00% super-happy. But quite a few people feel let down after a wedding or as the evening gets really late.Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-55267820596978573132011-07-21T23:44:13.309+01:002011-07-21T23:44:13.309+01:00I second the idea of finding girl friends to dance...I second the idea of finding girl friends to dance with; also, your friend's kids are great to dance with -- the parents can relax and the kids burn off steam. Typically, bachelors who like to dance are in short supply, and sometimes you put a guy in an awkward spot if he hates to dance and you ask him to.<br /><br />Multum - if a girl is still at a wedding when dancing has been happening for awhile, particularly if she has been dancing to some group-oriented songs, that's your sign. Hooray for guys who are up for dancing at weddings!<br /><br />At a "regular" dance, I would reccommend wearing dance shoes, dressing according to the style of music, standing by yourself at the edge of the dance floor maybe tapping your foot as a song ends, and as the next one begins, smile and make eye contact at a gent that looks like he wants to dance. Men usually take that as an invitation to ask you to dance. If a guy doesn't respond to the smile, try another. I don't know if that's too forward for Auntie and the Rules, but it was advice given to me by a dancing friend and it works (and can be applied to the rest of life, if you want something, look like you want it, albeit not desperately).Little Marynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-5182490103029877042011-07-21T23:06:36.943+01:002011-07-21T23:06:36.943+01:00I want to say something like "Could the singl...I want to say something like "Could the single ladies please give some sort of indication that they would at least like to dance with someone", but since I started reading more of this blog I only half want to say that - the other half of me now understands that it's not up to the girls to do that, it's up to men to man up and do what men are supposed to do!Multum Incolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04817574956365161041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-83123431322577980642011-07-21T21:33:17.298+01:002011-07-21T21:33:17.298+01:00I also disagree with the premise that it's ine...I also disagree with the premise that it's inevitable for single women to be miserable at weddings. I've never actually had a terrible time at a wedding, and have never gone to a wedding with a date. <br /><br />I think the key is to 1) have friends, both male and female, around with whom to dance. I've been fortunate to spend most weddings dancing in groups with male and female friends, or dancing with male friends.Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09398904417243102605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-50789391257883405352011-07-21T19:48:54.512+01:002011-07-21T19:48:54.512+01:00I actually avoided the bouquet once that was flyin...I actually avoided the bouquet once that was flying right at me... it fell on the floor. The bride turned around and said, aghast, "Did you just AVOID the bouquet?!" <br /><br />Having read your post, I now feel bad about it! But will know enough not insist upon a toss at my own wedding someday if there aren't enough single gals to take care of it. (Although, my experience is that as long as there is one who is SUPER EAGER the rest of us can stand at the back of bunch without being noticed.)<br /><br />Also to Young Canadian RC Male: I'm not sure what Seraphic would say, but I say, freaking ask the single girls to dance! Many of them! Many times! If there are single guys at a wedding who crowd the bar and ignore the single ladies, it seems as though junior high dances have re-emerged with only the addition of alcohol. Boys on one side... girls on the other.... *shudder*.MaryJanenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-59764262065085558892011-07-21T17:37:50.765+01:002011-07-21T17:37:50.765+01:00Why should being absolutely miserable at weddings ...Why should being absolutely miserable at weddings be inevitable for singles? I have managed not to be at a number of them, and quite some of my single female friends are quite excited about going to weddings. Being miserable while people dance (wedding or not) is more in my line, because I'd love to, and can't :-(<br />Leaving a newly married couple to their Sunday activities after Sunday Mass and going home on my own is much, much harder for me.Notburgahttp://exlaodicea.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-32659729041439223902011-07-21T17:10:28.141+01:002011-07-21T17:10:28.141+01:00Funny, this happened to me just last month! There ...Funny, this happened to me just last month! There was even a NCB standing right next to me & my female friend like a bump on a log, and I spent about three seconds wondering if I wanted to spend the whole dance pitying myself because neither he nor anyone else was asking me. Then I asked my female friend to dance. We had a lovely time.rhinemousenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-59411507054731005652011-07-21T16:20:46.457+01:002011-07-21T16:20:46.457+01:00Hello Seraphic. What would be your equivalent advi...Hello Seraphic. What would be your equivalent advice to Single Seraphic Men? Hmmm.... I think I see a follow up title to Seraphic Singles in your future ;).Young Canadian RC Malenoreply@blogger.com