tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post7286643005409903126..comments2023-12-25T11:13:04.495+00:00Comments on Seraphic Singles: DiscretionSeraphichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-73498133671126424482012-09-21T17:38:41.978+01:002012-09-21T17:38:41.978+01:00Oh dear, Andrea!I hope you're feeling better n...Oh dear, Andrea!I hope you're feeling better now.Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-8018297175007835442012-09-20T21:58:35.138+01:002012-09-20T21:58:35.138+01:00I definitely need to practice discretion when it c...I definitely need to practice discretion when it comes to discussing crushes with either gender. I mean really, there is nothing so disheartening as discussing too broadly in great excitement, only for it to end and then you have way too many people asking you about "how it's going." Sigh. <br />Double sigh for a longstanding male friend being in town for a visit just now, flirting with me hopelessly because we really do have such good chemistry, and then going his merry way, because he is not actually interested in me. I have learned this over the years of our friendship. <br />Triple sigh for the cold I just got, which is making me feel mopey. I am generally upbeat! Not today. <br />Off to make tea and feel sorry for myself now.Andreanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-24780172676278118412012-09-19T17:32:08.613+01:002012-09-19T17:32:08.613+01:00Also related: A guy I've been seeing asked if ...Also related: A guy I've been seeing asked if I wanted to go to a certain place. I said yes even though it's where a different guy I did NOT want to run into hangs out a lot. I thought it over and said "Actually, can we not go there?" And my date, although he seemed a bit puzzled, agreed very nicely and didn't ask why. I wouldn't even have been surprised or offended if he had asked..but he didn't, which saved me the trouble of coming up with some awkward, evasive explanation. Needless to say I was very impressed by his gentlemanliness.<br /><br />CD from a phone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-53803623836286118412012-09-19T17:14:42.481+01:002012-09-19T17:14:42.481+01:00The worst is being asked personal questions, espec...The worst is being asked personal questions, especially by a man, especially in somewhat vulnerable situation like if you like him or vice versa. It's a bit different with women because we exchange information to bond, but even then it's good to be alert that someone might just be nosy. And men, in my experience, ask questions when they have an agenda of some kind and NOT to bond, but that's not usually obvious till later, and women often feel obliged to answer because we're afraid of looking rude. I mean questions about things like money and dating history and not casual stuff like what book you're reading. I used to be really bad about answering nosy questions but am getting better about deflecting them or sometimes just saying "that's a personal question" or "I don't feel comfortable talking about it." Sometimes guys will ask questions more than once after I've ignored or pretended not to hear them. Then I tend to get a bit blunt but stupidly feel guilty afterwards...like I was the one being rude and not them. Society really conditions women to think that everything about us up for grabs.<br /><br />Oh and...sort of related. Twice yesterday I got asked point-blank at a store register for my email address. Not even a sales pitch first...it was almost like it was part of the transaction. That really annoys me, especially since I was already giving them my business and my money and didn't want to sign up for endless spam emails. I just told them I never give it out but I think if it happens again I'll complain to the manager or something. It's just bad customer service.<br /><br />Okay rant over. I'm all in favor of private information being kept private.<br /><br />CD from a phone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-11522323455266599952012-09-19T16:20:08.143+01:002012-09-19T16:20:08.143+01:00He is not up for auction, however, so behave yours...He is not up for auction, however, so behave yourselves.Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-65497904095055555112012-09-19T16:08:12.121+01:002012-09-19T16:08:12.121+01:00The Young Fogey is a real person whom I know, and ...The Young Fogey is a real person whom I know, and the young cat is a real cat with which I am acquainted. The cat belongs to my husband's boss, but the Young Fogey is unattached. Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-36430354926030861212012-09-19T15:40:45.835+01:002012-09-19T15:40:45.835+01:00Discretion is often the better path in many situat...Discretion is often the better path in many situations. I also was indiscrete as a kid on stuff, sometimes personal info, sometimes opinions (mine or family members) -but I got a decent lesson when we had a difficult family situation and I personally didn't want it spread around. Waiting a bit before sharing something personal is only rarely a bad idea - and I agree, never leads to regrets (I definitely regret being a childhood blabbermouth). <br /><br />The situation with the poor Duchess is best evaluated by looking at where the photo was taken from and a map/overview. I kept hearing "private home" and "viewable from public road" (admittedly I didn't think that view would be so clear - she wouldn't just bare all if she thought it could be viewed, I'm sure). Well, if you see a normal photo of the lookout spot, you can see how someone would not think they were going to be photographed on the balcony. It's actually quite creepy how they had to be lying in wait with a massive telephoto lens, etc., to get that photo.<br /><br />~NzieNziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05611004371935380366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-84570552485060110252012-09-19T15:09:10.641+01:002012-09-19T15:09:10.641+01:00I'll take the nerdy (I use that in a complimen...I'll take the nerdy (I use that in a complimentary way) protector--you take the cat!Tommie Goldnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-48907960830749823722012-09-19T15:07:28.991+01:002012-09-19T15:07:28.991+01:00Look at that beautiful CAT! You other ladies can h...Look at that beautiful CAT! You other ladies can have the Swashbuckler Protector if only I get to keep his cat.<br /><br />(Hm... troubling stereotypes rise like spectres in the background...) :-DAprilnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-23090912432721355292012-09-19T15:00:16.343+01:002012-09-19T15:00:16.343+01:00I know this is a little off topic but...who is tod...I know this is a little off topic but...who is today's swashbuckler protector? Is a real person whom you know?Tommie Goldnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-80760560503417321792012-09-19T13:28:15.134+01:002012-09-19T13:28:15.134+01:00Three comments about this post:
1) As someone who...Three comments about this post:<br /><br />1) As someone who is coming more & more in contact with PhDs (especially in Theology), and who is contemplating (with trepidation) entering PhD Theology studies, I cannot thank you enough for being "a total pain in the posterior of the powers and potentialities that control American academic theology." Perfectly stated. As was your response to their not-remotely-rooted-in-reality pontifications on sin.<br /><br />2) Agreed about the Duchess of Cambridge. I actually thought there had been a truce of sorts between royals and media, royals agreeing to all the public photo ops the media wanted, media allowing royals to have their private space be private. Naively (perhaps too much time listening to above-mentioned PhDs in Theology?) I forgot that the allure of making a sensation, to say nothing of the money that could be made on the black market if nowhere else, would override professional ethics. Anyway, her situation is vastly different from Harry's. I hope people realize that.<br /><br />3) I often kick myself for not being able to think of the right response to the situation, during the time of the situation. It's good to know that a writer such as yourself, who makes her living off responding to situations she sees, sometimes has the same struggle.Domestic Divanoreply@blogger.com