tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post8479018886376126433..comments2023-12-25T11:13:04.495+00:00Comments on Seraphic Singles: Womanly DignitySeraphichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-11276853381850195562010-08-13T17:27:56.399+01:002010-08-13T17:27:56.399+01:00Theob: where does it do that? I don't remember...Theob: where does it do that? I don't remember that. My copy's in Canada, so you'll have to quote chapter and verse.Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-8180122827733733522010-08-13T16:39:16.053+01:002010-08-13T16:39:16.053+01:00LOVE number 4! :)
There is also a masculine digni...LOVE number 4! :)<br /><br />There is also a masculine dignity, of not throwing oneself at a woman who is not interested, in not propositioning her for sex, or not getting excessively drunk, etc. The errors that women are prone to are not those that men are just as prone to, but there's a human dignity that we should all try for.<br /><br />We all know that I hate <i>The Rules,</i> and some of that hatred is because the book takes perfectly good ideas (have a life of your own, don't suffocate your significant other, have some dignity, etc.) and turns them into a self-serving mind-game. There isn't a good idea on this world that can't be twisted into a bad idea, and The Rules are a prime example.<br /><br />The other thing that I hate, hate, hate about <i>The Rules</i> is the part wherein it told women to dumb down for men. While there's no point in making it an intellectual competition (because relationships aren't about one-upping each other), any man whose interest in you is predicated on you being "smart but not as smart" is a lousy catch. Your relationship will also suck, too.theobromophilenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-87627495681271994102010-08-13T16:21:29.841+01:002010-08-13T16:21:29.841+01:00extra piercings, even just in your ears. It will ...extra piercings, even just in your ears. It will give you an edge, at least in the eyes of some people. Eek, I couldn't though. <br /><br />Listening to surprisingly dark or edgy music could help too, especially if your friends like talking about music. Anything that will surprise people (without being immoral) is great in my book.sciencegirlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-84717632713044388252010-08-13T10:04:20.442+01:002010-08-13T10:04:20.442+01:00Nobody start smoking to lose a goody-goody rep or ...Nobody start smoking to lose a goody-goody rep or any other reason!!! Being offered a cigar is a rarity, at least in my experience. You're not allowed to carry one around yourself! The bulk of the goody-goody thrill is the surprise of all around when you accept it. <br /><br />Barring cigars, I suggest a stick-on or paint-on tattoo, especially for an evening occasion. You could also incorporate a startling accessory into your daily outfits, like a Goth handbag or "Emily" T-shirt.<br /><br />There is nothing wrong with a virtuous reputation. But you still want to look like a fun and friendly person who doesn't take life TOO seriously. This is best done through SMILING, though as it is easy to forget to smile, I suggest the occasional sly fake tattoo or Goth stuff.Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-86226844122759363602010-08-13T04:38:34.349+01:002010-08-13T04:38:34.349+01:00Maybe the fact that I can't bring myself to sm...Maybe the fact that I can't bring myself to smoke is the source of the frightful reputation? Hmmmm...fifihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10707768899655106067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-29347038041733609232010-08-13T04:37:51.807+01:002010-08-13T04:37:51.807+01:00I'm dying laughing over number 4! Too great!
...I'm dying laughing over number 4! Too great! <br /><br />Any other advice for women who are very feminine, trying to shed a frightfully goody-goody reputation? I can't bring myself to smoke, not anything.fifihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10707768899655106067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-71482524001437828552010-08-13T02:46:44.771+01:002010-08-13T02:46:44.771+01:00Maybe I'll take a look at "The Rules,&quo...Maybe I'll take a look at "The Rules," (which a grain of salt.) I have a hard time holding my own, especially in avoiding the trap of making myself "too available" with regard with my schedule on weekends, etc. Thanks for the recommendation!Christinehttp://lettersfromchristine.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-52398196071437302092010-08-12T18:42:08.841+01:002010-08-12T18:42:08.841+01:00Cigars are classy, daring and expensive, whereas c...Cigars are classy, daring and expensive, whereas cigarettes are just cancer wrapped in paper. They have zero shock value for a woman. The only possible excuse for accepting a cigarette is to show off your cigarette holder. <br /><br />I was a little afraid of my now-friend Wodkatonik because she she was so feminine, poised and proper. But then we were both at a Men's Schola dinner, and the Bass offered cigars, and Wodkatonik accepted one. And I thought, "Yay! Maybe I am not too zany for her to be friends with after all!"<br /><br />A less happy cigar memory is standing on the front porch of a Jesuit residence smoking cigars while we all argued over the question of Karl Rahner's love life. At the time it all seemed so glamorously tough and one-of-the-boysish... Sigh.Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-83353331263021025482010-08-12T18:26:16.374+01:002010-08-12T18:26:16.374+01:00Just curious:
Why a cigar, but not a cigarette? (...Just curious:<br /><br />Why a cigar, but not a cigarette? (I'm allergic to tobacco smoke, so my curiosity is strictly academic.)<br /><br />--C.B.Catholic Bibliophagisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10697706672495544901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-14909922931480745132010-08-12T16:04:52.819+01:002010-08-12T16:04:52.819+01:00Thanks for this excellent post! I have read The R...Thanks for this excellent post! I have read The Rules and try to incorporate them into my life, but of course the temptation remains to try to jumpstart things with men to whom I am attracted. <br /><br />The waiting is difficult, but I love how The Rules free me up to do other things in my life. Instead of JUST waiting, or trying to manipulate situations, I feel free to do my best at work, to fill up my weekends with plans with friends, and to go out of town when I feel like it. <br /><br />In my last relationship I put everything aside for him, to be available as much as he 'needed' me, and to keep my time open for him outside of that just in case. My work, school, and sanity suffered - and the relationship didn't work out anyway! The Rules way makes so much more sense.Jen Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15361751041641045793noreply@blogger.com