tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post8570947883681844683..comments2023-12-25T11:13:04.495+00:00Comments on Seraphic Singles: Taking Stock of SinglesSeraphichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-90827798504240574882010-01-06T15:23:48.042+00:002010-01-06T15:23:48.042+00:00Okay, we're all on track now: marriageable.
...Okay, we're all on track now: marriageable. <br /><br />KimP, that is indeed a very sad story. <br /><br />As for "submitting" to marriage--yarg! It's submitting to less-than-marriage (i.e. just living with some guy, no ring, no commitment, sometimes no "I love you") that is so hurtful to women! (Out and out abuse, of course, is much, much worse. But, oh, the pain of women who wish their live-in lovers would marry them! It makes me want to cry.)Mrs McLeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18095035617334068201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-89721911001037515452010-01-06T03:20:19.879+00:002010-01-06T03:20:19.879+00:00Interestingly, Gloria Steinem is a widow these day...Interestingly, Gloria Steinem is a widow these days. She finally got married at age 66, for no other reason than love, and then her husband got cancer. They were only married for three years before his death. <br /><br />I think it is tragic, especially since she took so much heat for actually getting married. There were a lot of feminists who felt she betrayed the movement by submitting to marriage.KimPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11713499438047823595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-23082106045208442062010-01-06T00:26:37.800+00:002010-01-06T00:26:37.800+00:00oh. silly me... Sorry, Aunty S!oh. silly me... Sorry, Aunty S!some guy on the streethttp://epistle-null.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-6165842006198081732010-01-05T01:14:58.238+00:002010-01-05T01:14:58.238+00:00Not an I but an E, actually: marriageable.Not an I but an E, actually: marriageable.Alephinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-63037045344741422042010-01-04T22:41:45.040+00:002010-01-04T22:41:45.040+00:00I also found the 20-somethings' comments a bit...I also found the 20-somethings' comments a bit funny. It's like the statistic for "Single" women including 15 year olds. Okay, if you are under 30 and you are not married, it is not a huge surprise in this day and age. You're not weird; you're not a hero. You're pretty normal.<br /><br />However, many people in their 20s don't see it that way. Their friends start getting married at 20 or 21, and by the age of 24, some think "OMG, what's wrong with me??!!!" (Answer: nothing except a case of measuringyourselfagainstothersitis.)<br /><br />Or else they are swaggering about saying, "I'll never put MY head in the noose, man!" That's lovely, but Mr. All That And a Bag of Chips might be thinking differently when he's 37. Hopefully he won't have turned into the "I never date but women wouldn't be interested in me because I'm not rich" guy.Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-87781929971894178612010-01-04T22:24:08.245+00:002010-01-04T22:24:08.245+00:00Alisha: I am reminded of that famous book Anna Kar...Alisha: I am reminded of that famous book <i>Anna Karenina</i>, of which I confess to have read only the first page and given up with disgust.<br /><br />Seraphic: <b>why not tell Jaye???</b> Do you think she reads SSC?<br /><br />Altogether, as some folks earlier in the linked thread observe, I rather suspect that the class "Never married" is much too vague a set. Studying never-married people seems to me like studying "unsolved math problems" as a class, only somewhat less tame.<br /><br />As it happens, I have never married; I don't expect to <i>be</i> married untill I <i>am</i> [!] --- and even then, I imagine, I'll find it surprising! To call me "never-married" seems to highlight a transient historical fact quite beside any point of interest (except perhaps to anyone I were courting). But there are some rather dense-sounding people leaving their candid comments in that other thread a good stretch younger than me calling themselves definitively "never married", (but none "serious single" or comparable.) that I dreadfully hope they come to some better sense in time. A lot of them are both scandalous in their frank honesty and dishwater-dull in their self-deception (as Alisha laments). But I don't believe they've actually so much in common with eachother that it's helpful to study them for statistics purposes.some guy on the streethttp://epistle-null.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-22453668341546879652010-01-04T20:00:38.841+00:002010-01-04T20:00:38.841+00:00Wow...that comment thread is incredibly sad...the ...Wow...that comment thread is incredibly sad...the only thing I can think is, I wish they could see themselves through God's eyes...Alishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08803069677860028673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-13157508614305610552010-01-04T18:43:47.398+00:002010-01-04T18:43:47.398+00:00DM, all these things are easier to say than to do,...DM, all these things are easier to say than to do, as I know firsthand! (And as you will see in my book!)<br /><br />CB, not to blow my own horn, but I am so glad there is a writer saying that living with a guy with who you have sex is NOT REALLY BEING SINGLE, even though that writer is me. Why do women sell themselves so short? Why, why, why? (She bangs her head on the table thrice.) Actually, it's because they're afraid of being lonely and they don't realize that only marriage to a person who values marriage as an institution (or better yet, a vocation) can give a woman true and lasting security with a man. Any exceptions prove the rule. Glorian Steinem is married, for heaven's sake. It is not feminist to let some guy use you as a long-term concubine/chef! (She gives her head one more bang.)<br /><br />SGOTS--ooh, thank you. It was the "I" I needed. Ooh, if the litmus paper turns black that is scary!;-)Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-10752449430193421582010-01-04T17:09:01.155+00:002010-01-04T17:09:01.155+00:00"Marriagiable" certainly gets used --- n..."Marriagiable" certainly gets used --- note the second 'i'.<br /><br />If the paper turns black, maybe it means "marry or burn" whereat St. Paul says "OK, go ahead..."<br /><br />Right... Now I *must* get back to grading calculus papers... oh, so _dull_ !some guy on the streethttp://epistle-null.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-8806943092536908552010-01-04T16:22:27.161+00:002010-01-04T16:22:27.161+00:00Hmmmm. That first poster, Jaye, didn't seem to...Hmmmm. That first poster, Jaye, didn't seem to see the parallel between her situation and the one posted further down from the man who thought that there was no reason these days for a man to ever marry because (though he didn't use these words) there's no need to buy a cow when you can get the milk for free.<br /><br />I think it would have been interesting if the author of the article had differentiated between unmarrieds who were living with sexual partners and those who were really single because I would think they would have different responses.<br /><br />--C.B.Catholic Bibliophagisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10697706672495544901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-71414255568742207742010-01-04T14:28:38.550+00:002010-01-04T14:28:38.550+00:00Quite right : it was !
(As I said, it took me a f...Quite right : it was !<br /><br />(As I said, it took me a fair while after losing my wife to realize where I was meant to be going . . . some of us are just slow learners, I suppose.)<br /><br />Yet again, though, you are just so right about so much . . . I just hope all your Searching Single readers listen very carefully to what you're saying.Dominic Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14514722976964423091noreply@blogger.com