tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post8615630061604481587..comments2023-12-25T11:13:04.495+00:00Comments on Seraphic Singles: Being More SeraphicSeraphichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-3430082298205909802012-03-15T08:46:14.012+00:002012-03-15T08:46:14.012+00:00Is chitchat with a stranger in a public setting so...Is chitchat with a stranger in a public setting so threatening it requires a rescue?Marcusnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-27117297298306678692012-03-14T15:20:03.239+00:002012-03-14T15:20:03.239+00:00Glad we understand each other then. I do however, ...Glad we understand each other then. I do however, patiently await, in future, a public appearance where one day I can meet you. YCRCM.Young Canadian RC Malehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14716232749482910081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-51756331540925111182012-03-14T15:06:18.832+00:002012-03-14T15:06:18.832+00:00If you want it to be for girls, maybe you should c...If you want it to be for girls, maybe you should change the color scheme to pink! What man would want to be caught reading a pink blog?Sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06221464682706193091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-16393775677534920062012-03-14T07:28:42.317+00:002012-03-14T07:28:42.317+00:00Dear Anonymous for This One, I'm very sorry th...Dear Anonymous for This One, I'm very sorry that happened. I can well imagine how uncomfortable you felt because I feel a shock when even men in my social circle say "I read your blog."<br /><br />Once, rather horribly for me, a man approached the now-husband of one of my friends and said "I recognized your girlfriend on Seraphic Singles!" And the now-husband said, crushingly, "But that's a blog FOR GIRLS." That was the end of that conversation.<br /><br />In general, when men tell me they read this blog, I tell them that this is a blog for girls. Being a woman, I don't feel competent commenting on the Single Life of men, and all I can do is recommend, again and again, that Single men talk to a good priest who is himself a Single man. <br /><br />YCRCM, thank you for your appreciation of my work. I know you know I'm married, but it's not about that. It's about not talking to men to whom I have not been introduced by a mutual friend. As I am not making public appearances on this trip, I don't want to be caught in awkward conversations with male strangers. I have been hunted down by a male reader before, and it was not a pleasant experience. It was quite frightening, actually.<br /><br />That said, it is not at all unlikely that we know some of the same people, so perhaps we will be introduced after all.Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-87521225659901318932012-03-14T06:41:03.013+00:002012-03-14T06:41:03.013+00:00Seraphic, I'm not 100% socially dense (maybe m...Seraphic, I'm not 100% socially dense (maybe more like 50% dense lol!), I know you are married. It's more that I enjoy your work as a blogger and also are pro-TLM as well and have seen the best and worst of your fair city Theologically with your academic past. And you keep abrest with what's going on theologically and socially in the Church as a whole. And not to forget, you are one of the reasons I don't mind the Catholic Register and I tell people it's become more neutral over the years. The coverage Nonato, Gyapong, You, Fr. De Souza and Coren provide, you have made the paper better and balanced. That's why I wanted to meet you.Young Canadian RC Malehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14716232749482910081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-62459327289782734512012-03-14T02:05:08.179+00:002012-03-14T02:05:08.179+00:00I had one of your readers approach me at a yearly ...I had one of your readers approach me at a yearly get together. I was uncomfortable the first time we met, but the hobby that attracts people to this yearly event is one that tends to draw more socially awkward folks (myself included...) so I brushed it off as nothing more than that. A year later, he made a beeline for me and greeted me using my (full) name. While I recognized his face, a year is a very long time to remember a name or any other personal details. From what I understand, the name and details were known because he made it to my blog from yours (I suppose following the link on a comment I left). It was uncomfortable because we didn't have any connection other than this one yearly event (and the thoughts I blast to the universe at large) and his familiarity with me was therefore entirely unwarranted. It was also uncomfortable because I always attend said event with my (now) husband. His familiarity implied that he hadn't noticed or didn't care that I was spoken for. <br /><br />(Sidenote: As men cannot read social situations as easily as women, and as my husband didn't (and doesn't) know who I do and do not know in this circle of hobbyists, he didn't know to come to my rescue until after the fact. An encouragement that being married doesn't completely protect one from unwanted male attention.)Anonymous for this onenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-22431115010509864442012-03-13T20:37:39.200+00:002012-03-13T20:37:39.200+00:00I love Barbara Pym! Good medicine right there. A...I love Barbara Pym! Good medicine right there. And these are great suggestions--#7 is my favorite. :)Sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06221464682706193091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-72016981997141930222012-03-13T18:20:24.530+00:002012-03-13T18:20:24.530+00:00My comment crossed yours, Just Another! As a matte...My comment crossed yours, Just Another! As a matter of fact, I have been invited to make public appearances in both Poland and Austria this year. Last year I met readers at Notre Dame in South Bend, Indiana. Readers came not just from Notre Dame but from nearby states. <br /><br />So I do make public appearances; it all depends on where I am invited.Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-61799868000400930412012-03-13T18:17:10.072+00:002012-03-13T18:17:10.072+00:00Unless on public business or at a party thrown by ...Unless on public business or at a party thrown by a mutual friend, women generally don't like being approached by men to whom they have never been introduced. <br /><br />One of the difficulties of writing is that it can inculcate a false sense of intimacy between the writer and the reader. This does not matter very much between women, for women can usually read social signals more easily than men and infinitely more easily than men who suffer from any of the many common forms of autism. <br /><br />Because of the very personal topics discussed on this blog, if I could somehow restrict it to women readers, I would. Male readers should not take this as a slight, and I am conscious that I met my husband through my comments box. However, I have also had problems with male readers who crossed the line of normal social discourse to meet me. <br /><br />In private life, I prefer not to meet men to whom I have not been introduced by a mutual friend or acquaintance.Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-18932193135635632302012-03-13T18:15:38.250+00:002012-03-13T18:15:38.250+00:00I think one day we need to schedule a Seraphic Sin...I think one day we need to schedule a Seraphic Single meet-up/ get together. I would love to meet you Auntie and all the other singles that follow your blog. I think it would be great fun! :-)Just another Catholic Girlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-26244098734349372032012-03-13T15:54:47.388+00:002012-03-13T15:54:47.388+00:00Awwww :(. And I was so looking forward to meeting ...Awwww :(. And I was so looking forward to meeting you and revealing my true identity to you.Young Canadian RC Malehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14716232749482910081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-4704309190032546272012-03-13T07:36:45.603+00:002012-03-13T07:36:45.603+00:00No, I have no public appearances planned! Unless m...No, I have no public appearances planned! Unless my publisher organizes something, this is strictly a family-and-friends visit.Seraphichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251504033428511090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-90495965370139957042012-03-13T03:08:07.249+00:002012-03-13T03:08:07.249+00:00Hello Seraphic. I was wondering if while you are i...Hello Seraphic. I was wondering if while you are in Canada, are you going to be doing any visits outside of your family, say maybe a book visit, something with the Register, a pub crawl? You know something where people outside of your family can come and see you in person? <br /><br />BTW, how long is the visit? If you are staying longer than a month here (say till after the 15th April) there's a special TLM mass I got word of from someone I know of being held on Divine Mercy Sunday.Young Canadian RC Malehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14716232749482910081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-48949940553228726102012-03-12T22:36:13.017+00:002012-03-12T22:36:13.017+00:00Great list; I love #7 especially! :)Great list; I love #7 especially! :)Jen Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15361751041641045793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-97115435598719802012-03-12T22:35:21.166+00:002012-03-12T22:35:21.166+00:00This comment has been removed by the author.Jen Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15361751041641045793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6905236167079601771.post-47072404011725231902012-03-12T21:30:28.230+00:002012-03-12T21:30:28.230+00:00I read Barbara Pym's Excellent Women recently ...I read Barbara Pym's <i>Excellent Women</i> recently which I thought was a great book for singles. At least I giggled through the whole thing. And it's one of those rare books where the single heroine ends the book as still a single heroine.Jamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18076215213828545013noreply@blogger.com