Friday, 24 May 2013

Just Two Girls from Notre Dame

Very occasionally this blog sends best wishes to long-term readers who are about to get married. And I am a bit stubborn about this, since some yahoo, who obviously only read a post or two of my blog, wrote on his blog that my readers never seem to get married. Well, so much for him because sometimes my readers do.

This time it's Tess and also Holly, both of the University of Notre Dame. They're getting married tomorrow. Tess is my Number One Notre Dame fane, and Holly was my personal assistant at the Edith Stein Conference. Yes, they give speakers our own personal assistants. They do things big at Notre Dame.

So best wishes, Tess and Holly, and may God bless you in your vocation to the married life!


Anonymous said...

For the record, I'm engaged, and I very well might not be if I hadn't read your blog and come to understand the "It's just coffee" mentality. So thank you very much. :)


Seraphic said...

Oooh! You're very welcome! And thank you for telling me. It's always exciting to discover the Holy Spirit used me to achieve His ends without me having a clue! Hee hee!

Anonymous said...

I, too, am engaged to be married. I've been reading your blog for two years, and reading your book played a huge part in me being able to be content with my single situation. That in turn enabled me to grow and improve, and to know myself and to be myself, and thus make friends with the wonderful man I am to marry. So, thank you!

Seraphic said...

Thank you very much for telling me that! When the bank account runs dry, or I get severe writer's block, or I contemplate my childless state, nothing cheers me like knowing I made such a difference in someone's life.

Anonymous said...

Your blog has inspired me to talk hopefully about the single life with women my age and my mother's age. I now consistently elicit people's "How We Met And What I First Thought About Him/Her" stories, and they're very helpful.

My mother and I have talked a lot about the successful and unsuccessful marriages on her side of the family, and all of the unsuccessful ones have been devout Catholics marrying non-Christians. Also learning that in general, even 100 years ago, women in my family tended to get married far later than the average, which was very comforting, considering that I'm now approaching the average age and have nary a suitor in sight!

Best wishes, Tess, Holly, Jaime, and Anonymous. Care to share how you met your future husbands?

Anonymous said...

Relatively short version:
I live in a community of 5 women (not specifically a "religious community," just intentional community where we eat and pray together at least once a week). My fiancé lives next door in the men's house. So that's convenient. :) But we met because our houses would hang out and pray together, etc.

What I first thought about him... well, he was annoying and talked too much. I kinda felt bad for him because he would go off on long rants and everyone in the room would start other conversations and stop listening (or so it seemed to me), and I'd absolutely HATE it if that happened to me, so I felt obligated, sort of, to listen to him. He was interesting enough.

I knew he was interested in applying for a ministry job that I had just left. If I hadn't known he was interested in applying...there's no way. I could tell he was interested in ME, too. He asked if we could grab some food sometime and talk about my experience.

In my head, my eyes narrowed and I sneered, "I see right through you dude. But I know you actually want to learn about this. And I know that accepting a dinner invite is NOT accepting a marriage proposal. Ugh. Fine."

What I actually said was, "Sure."

He was much less annoying one on one. ;) I guess you could say the rest is history. Oh, and he didn't end up getting the job, anyway.


Tess said...

Thank you so much for the good wishes, Auntie! What a great coincidence that Holly and I got married on the same day. We even had a friend who made it to both weddings!

Dear Anonymous who asked how we met our husbands—I met mine through a mutual friend who introduced us, as I read once that the majority of people meet their spouses. If you think about it, the odds are very high that your future husband is already friends with one of your friends. So if you expand your friend circles and try to meet as many people as possible, every person you meet is getting you one step closer to meeting him! I wouldn't take that toooooo seriously (i.e. you don't want to be obsessive about meeting new people) but there's a lot of truth to it and I found it a helpful way to think about things.

Also, if you want more information, at some point I'm planning to publish a "love story"-type post on my blog, so you can keep an eye out for that if you like. :)